# Am i a bad person? **URL:** \ **Category:** random\ **Created:** [April 26, 2003, 1:29am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275 "2003-04-26T01:29:43Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![vts31](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@vts31](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/vts31)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:29am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/1 "2003-04-26T01:29:43Z")
My mom is in the hospital. she lost the baby she was carying. She was 4 months pregnant. I feel bad for her but other than that i have no emotions either way. Is this normal? ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:31am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/2 "2003-04-26T01:31:29Z")
i know what you mean, when my grandma died i was upset but when i saw everybody crying i just couldnt, i wasnt SAD as such…its a weird feeling ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/3 "2003-04-26T01:32:22Z")
Death does mysterious things to people. you’re not a bad person ☹ - Soul :s: ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:32am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/4 "2003-04-26T01:32:54Z")
yeah, i know how you feel, i was supposed to have a brother… sorry, for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:44am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/5 "2003-04-26T01:44:14Z")
sorry for your loss. your not a bad person. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:47am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/6 "2003-04-26T01:47:14Z")
humans are a weird animal. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 1:59am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/7 "2003-04-26T01:59:52Z")
i’m not a psychologist but… you probably don’t feel bad because there was no direct attachment. I don’t think that makes you a bad person at all Edwin. Your pyhche guarded you from it…THAT my friend is very normal. I’m very sorry to hear this happened nonetheless. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 2:05am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/8 "2003-04-26T02:05:36Z")
what unflux said ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 3:23am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/9 "2003-04-26T03:23:35Z")
when my grand father died, i felt it without me knowing. i was sad enough that i cried for along time. that even affected my exams. i got 50% in math and i dont know what in science and horroble marks but i still managed to get an 80. about your mom loosing the baby i am sorry. i would have felt the samething for the same reason that unflux mentioned. but come on dont you feel al little sad. if the samething happens to my mother now (cuz she is also pregenet and in the forth month) i would be really sad. not becuse i love the baby but cuz i really want a new baby. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 5:03am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/10 "2003-04-26T05:03:34Z")
> \*Originally posted by UNFLUX \* > \*\*i’m not a psychologist but… you probably don’t feel bad because there was no direct attachment. I don’t think that makes you a bad person at all Edwin. Your pyhche guarded you from it…THAT my friend is very normal. I’m very sorry to hear this happened nonetheless. ☹ \*\* Thats exactly what I think… ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 7:05am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/11 "2003-04-26T07:05:21Z")
no you’re noooottt a bad person! If you had known the baby for 5 years and hanged out wif him/her then you’d be much sadder! The thing is you just actually don’t know what you’ve just lost! But you mom maybe made such plans to grow up the baby and now all her dreams were flushed away… sad thing… ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex011/uploads/kirupa/original/3X/6/2/621e5c11736f46532526e61be85940af4230f3e5.png) [@system](https://forum.kirupa.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2003, 7:08am UTC](https://forum.kirupa.com/t/am-i-a-bad-person/19275/12 "2003-04-26T07:08:16Z")
It has been said and agreed by many allready - you probably didn’t know what to think not having a real connection yet … some people pour it out thinking that they’re supposed to - that would be abnormal in my opinion BUT…you _did_ feel _something_ I have had a few [allmost] similar situations recently where I didn’t feel the way I _thought I should have_ and it bothered me too … till I thought it through and realised that I ‘felt’ what I could handle at the time… if that makes any sense - kind of an emotional thermostat keeping things at safe level (???) …my condolences to you and your family