C# - I may have bitten off more than I can chew

I have pitched for a project and won the business. However the job involves allowing the client to update a mySQL database thus feeding the data to my Flash site, all well and good, however I am a designer rather than a coder !

Having said that, these new strings to my bow would obviously bring me $dollars :-), so I have been reading several tutorials and the forums here and the process doesn’t seem too overwhelming. In spite of my newfound enthusiasm however I cant even find the mySQL database on the server, though my hosting pal says no problem, I’ll create the script for you to access in C#. This last statement scares me to death - can anyone point me to a tutorial on the subject?