Feel my Frustration (Flash/PHP Mailing List)

Okay, i’ve been trying my hardest to impliment a Mailing List into a site that i am building, and i am having no luck. I’ve searched the forum many times, and have been through a majority of the ‘Mailing List’ threads on these forums, and even a few on other sites, but still, i’ve had no luck. I follow instructions, upload to the server to test, and never recieve my ‘test’ emails. I must have tried atleast five different times, since Friday, with no luck at all…

I know that PHP works on the server, as i followed a Kirupa tutorial on verifying PHP - http://www.kirupa.com/web/testphp.htm

No Luck with this: http://www.kirupa.com/developer/actionscript/flash_php_email.htm

No Luck with this:
http://www.kirupaforum.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=17604

No Luck with this:
http://www.kirupaforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=36337&highlight=mailing+list

No Luck with this:
http://www.kirupaforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=17623&page=1&highlight=mailing+list

I know that the answer is out there, but everybody seems to have different methods, and none of them work for me. Is there an absolute fool-proof method of creating a Mailing List submission box using Flash and PHP?? If so, can you point me to it!!!