Frames issue - IExplorer blocking Flash content

I’m working on a simple site that will use a flash menu in a frame to control content in another frame. I found the Flash and Frames tut on this site, but it wasn’t much help. (It’s good, it just didn’t help me.)

When I load the main frameset in AOL or IE, the page containing the flash content doesn’t load. When I load just the page with the flash menu, I get a pop-up blocker-like error message informing me that my browser is blocking active content from being displayed that could harm my computer yada yada yada. How can I make this thing load?! I know I could reset the security settings on my browser but what about the other billion net users?

Thanks,
Deb