How to control external MC... pause play etc

Hello,

Im trying to get an external swf to pause but I can’t seem to do it… here is how my movies are setup

Domain1
preloader.swf

Domain2
movie.swf

When they were on the same domain I could access movie.swf fine but now it is on the other domain… it loads, but i can’t control it.
Im using System.security.allowDomain so it loads fine but telling the container to pause now does nothing…

Hope someone can help