Layers and loadmovie problems

Hi there, I have had some problems with loadmovie and swf’s

The most recent issue is this:
I have a loadmovienum() command that loads my movie, currently into an empty movie container.
I have a button that you press that onRelease plays a frame range (that has a lable) that contains the empty movie clip that has the loadmovie command that loads an external SWF. This all works fine, however, I have a layer above the labled frame that is playing the external file that contains an interface item. When it loads the external SWF, the menu item does not show up. I think it is just replacing the current flash file with the external one and not integrating it.

I have tried to change the loadmovie command by levels (-1, or 0) target (_root) but none of the things I do seem to put it in as you would expect it, below the flash item in the higher level. is there a way to tell flash to play the menu item at a higher level and put it on top of the swf?

Thankyou for any help.