Links opening in new window

Hi,
I just got Flash MX today, and so far, I managed to do tweening (yay). However, I am trying to link to another swf, but it won’t open in the same window. I set it to target _self, but it keeps opening in an external window. I guess I am also confused to how I can get it to open in the same window. What I want to do is when you click on the button, the page loads in another section of the flash movie (kind of like frames in HTML)…

I’m trying to create something like this site:
http://www.arbel-designs.com/tut/Tips/site/site.html

However, the instructions are horribly vague, so I’m afraid I’m quite lost on what to do. If anybody could help me, I would really appreciate it. Even more, if somebody can find a website where it teaches you to create a website from scratch with good instructions (maybe I’m hoping for too much), I would be forever grateful. Thank you! (I like the Kirupa tutorial, but I want to do something without any templates).