What constitutes as programming "the right way"

Hi All,

I wanted to ask your opinion on this issue. I had a programmer recently tell me that AS3 is overkill for small web projects and then he told me that all of my code was no good because I’m not programming “the right way”. I just wanted to ask what exactly is the right way of programming AS3 and if there are any good books/references that shows/explains the correct way of doing things?