What seems to be complicated actionscript

I am designing myself a new website and am getting stuck with a particular thing I would like to do.

I want to load 9 x external SWF files into place holders in a grid at the top right of the page. When you mouseover they should scale 110% (exaggerate) smoothly and scale bank when mouse out.

However I am having problems with layers, they just aren’t working.

When the mouse is over an icon I want the user to click and the whole icon to scale up and fill the page (scaling and moving to the middle of the page).

I just CAN’T find an example of anything like this in actionscript samples.

Can anyone point me to some links or help.