Flash Video - pausing player until viewer presses play on startup

hi there,

this is probably an easy one that someone could quickly send me a link or tutorial to, but usually when i embed my flash video, when i play it back, it loads and plays right away just fine. however, i think more common right now is to have the video load in but to stay paused until the viewer presses the play button. for example, on this page, about half way down in the right column, where it says “Tee inspired A/V” if you press it, it brings the video in above it, but it doesn’t play until i want it to. how do i do this? your advice is much appreciated.