Help me please

I have been rehearsing with a band for the last 5months and part of the deal was that i would create a website…now i am just doing that right but i have a problem with building the bastard!!!

i know a flash website is made up of extenal swfs, but how do i load them. i know what code to put down. for each button …but if you look at this website

obviously when u click the options on the menu bar external swfs are uploaded but how do they load at exactly the correct loactions is there code that helps me do this…

its pissing me off …coz i need to know how to upload external swfs smoothly

i had this idea that i would understand but this much harder than writing music

can anybody help me out