Movie Clip targetting

Hello all
I have aproblem i am trying to resolve rearding targetting a embedded movie clip.
The mbedded movie has a stop action on frame one .I use a button to control the movie .I target the movie with the this . syntax but it will not play it will only play if i hit thje button twice or if I remove the stop action.I have tried to target it with _root as well as the target command nothing works.
Can anyone please help me thanks all for your time.