MySQL 4.0.20d Set-Up

Ok first let me be completely frank. I just don’t get what is going on with all of this no tutorial I have gone through mentions this stuff but here are the big things. I have already set-up PHP5 and Apache2 (though because I thought they might be screwing stuff up I removed them from the system, but will be re-installing them once I get MySQL up and running).

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[]How come I can never connect to the database from localhost [see screenshot2]. Just to let you know it gives my ERROR 1044: BLAH BLAH cannot connect from ‘@localhost’ to ‘mysql’
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]Secondly, do I need MyODBC drivers to get to connect to the database locally because when I start up MySQL AB I have an error MSG on that home screen.
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]Driver 3.51 Not Found [check screenshot 1 for what I mean].
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[*]Also, which is more important my.ini or my.cnf? And where can I find these my-small.cnf or my-medium.cnf files that are supposed to be in the release.
[/list]Basically I don’t think I know anything! I have attached a pdf of the [size=1]WinMySQLAdmin 1.4 Tool [size=2]print out. And two screenshots that should picturize everything that I am talking about. Some one please help![/size][/size]
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