is it possible to make my embedded fonts load after 3 frames instaid of one, so my preloader wond have to load that long.
(my preloader is the first two frames of the movie)
Well you could use a (3 <= _framesloaded) and put your entire site content besides your fonts on the first frame or two but I have no clue why anyone would want to do that because fonts are such a small file size when loading that it would be prefered to not even worry about it! Its impossible as for as I know it to get what you want with a getBytesTotal() preload because Flash takes all of the files embedded in your movie and evaluates a total. Sorry 
hope you can work your way around it!