[SIZE=3][COLOR=skyblue]“Your heart is free. Have the courage to follow it” - from the movie Braveheart[/COLOR][/SIZE]
Hey man,
Your treading on some messed up ground here.
You have to be ready to toss your friendship out the window if your pursue this. If it flys and she is all about you too…thats the nuts man. But a few months/years down the road can lead to some hairy situations.
Kit had said that after her and her dude split they were cool as friends again. Thats actually incredibly rare. (and props for that by the way)
I find it impossible to be just friends after a long term relationship split. The thought of someone else being with that person twists my insides to the point of borderline insanity.
Its easier (but more cowardly) for me to just torch the bridge and move on. Sure its selfish, but I have already come to terms with that…
Sorry I am goin on my own personal tangent here :trout:
Oh yeah I had a point here…There are a lot of people like me that just cant bury the past, wipe the slate clean and proceed like everything was before.
Keep in mind your a pretty young dude right? (14/15?)
Perhaps you should just jump on the greanade and see if it goes off. Life’s lessons are always beter learned through personal experience.
Perhaps you should just jump on the greanade and see if it goes off. Life’s lessons are always beter learned through personal experience.
Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement. (Evan Hardin)
I’ll admit that it’s difficult, but at the age of 15ish you’ve really got nothing to lose.
When my bloke and I split up t was very awkward for a while afterwards. That could have had something to do with the fact that he’d been seeing a girl where he worked, of course… So yeah, things were bad for a bit after that. Then I figured that there was nothing I could do about it, he apologised for being a ratb*****d, and we settled back to beign friends.
Now if one of us is having trouble with a significant other, then we call on each other for advice and a shoulder.
yeah 14, no i agree that i got nothin to loose, i just gotta suck it up :-/
thanks agian for all the help 
Hey Mdipi,
I would highly recommend following Digigamer’s advice. Go places together alone but dont make it feel like a date. If she is interested she WILL make some sort of hint like Digigamer said. If you tell her something like that even if she suspects you like her, saying it outloud can really turn things around, trust me. I had a male friend and we’d hang out together and then he asked me out. I loved being his friend and we had so much fun but us as a couple wouldnt have worked. I said I think we should stay friends but that made him made cause he had gone out on a limb to ask me… we wernt friends really after that… we felt awkward and weird after the confrontation and to make things worse he actually spread a rumour around the camp we were working at that I had sleep with his friend WHICH I DIDNT and boy does something like THAT make you made.
Moral: If you’re good friends and you enjoy their company, dont try to change the relationship with a conversation, make general hints (arm touching, shoulder’s toucher [Digigamer’s ideas]…) and the other person, if interested will make them back. You will get the understanding if they also have more than friend feelings for you.
OR… Kit’s idea IS pretty good. Just get her smashed and then bring it out (make sure she’s really really smashed and she’ll probably let it all out) Just dont go getting all excited and going all the way or anything cause you dont want to wake up sober in the morning and then click into all the feelings you’ve expressed and how you’re now lying naked to your friend…
And THAT is Dr.Seretha’s dose of LOVE medicine. Take it without food cause you’ll get drunker.
~ Seretha :love:
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Kitiara would like to state that she is not advocating the consumption of alcohol before the age of 18 or of getting a date plastered in order to get your end away.
Thank you.
*Originally posted by Kitiara *
**Public Service Announcement
Kitiara would like to state that she is not advocating the consumption of alcohol before the age of 18 or of getting a date plastered in order to get your end away.
Thank you.
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And being the largest advocate for alcohol here; I would like to also back up kit’s statement.
If you’re 15 then you have our permission to get her hyper on sugar or caffienated products instead.
D*mn Dipi!
Is she hot dude? I want to see her! I’m coming over there now!
Aw, my little dipi is all grown up… Haha just kidding man.
Just be like, Btch! Suk me! Thats what i do? thx +_+
grinch:kir:
Yeah, because that’ll do it for any woman…
Rolls eyes
If you really want to know how she feels about you (friend - or more than friend), then ask her if you can talk to her about relationship stuff, and then tell her about a crush that you have on another girl, and then look for signs of jealousy…
This is difficult, because girls send out mixed signals, and she might tell you to go for it, because she might be unable to admit how she really feels, or, she might really just want to be your friend.
In my experience, its always good to have a good plutonic female friend, for relationship advice, and whatnot. Try to court a couple other females, and keep her up on the progress. If she reciprocates your feelings, it will kill her to see you pursuing other girls…
Its a really tricky game, but heres three pieces of advice. 1 - Dont make advances on her, especially if you’re not sure how she feels. This may ruin everything. 2 - Do your best to read the signs; it may be hard, but really try to notice how she acts towards you, as compared to how she treats other dudes…
and 3 - Go out of your way to let her know how much you appreciate her as a plutonic friend. If she likes you in the way that you like her, this will drive her crazy…
But then again, all chicks are different… Read the signs…
sounds like a case for …
…Dear Lovie
She said in the Newsletter you can email her [email protected]
what have you got to lose?
Rev
I dated a guy for a little while who was my housemate and bandmate at the time (THAT was a big mistake - NEVER EVER EVER date someone you live with unless you are dating first and then move in together. And I recommend against dating someone you are in a band with also - makes gigs on the road very hard if you break up). Anyway, he told me he could never be friends with his exs because every time he looked at them all he could think was “I saw you naked”. :sigh: Yep, real mature. And he was 25! But when we broke up I didn’t let him off easily. I just made sure to keep in touch with him and now we’re still friends. Of course, I have no idea what he is thinking when we run into each other but hopefully he’s grown up a bit.
Moral of the story: if you can both me mature (doesn’t matter your age - how good is your brain?) regardless of what happens then you’ll be just fine with telling her how you feel. And of course it will be awkward at first if it doesn’t work out. But if you make a point to try to keep the friendship going then it will.
K. Nuff sed from da old lady. 
Sergi, think abou thte girls at my school. Then answer your question 
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I have been talking a lot with her firends since they all said they had a feeling i liked her, so they are tellin me a lot of what to do too thanks for all the help guys
Hehe,
Yah you got a point, but I one time saw this hot chick at your school, and she was like a wana-be skater. It was wierd, I was like whoa? Oh and Dipi, did you not have school today ether? thx+_+
grinch:kir:
donno who you are talkin bout serge. this year? we will talk when you get on aim.
*Originally posted by Kitiara *
**I had a similar thing, where I really fancied one of my friends who I’d known for about 5 years. We were always doing stuff like going to football, films and that together, but neither of us had the guts to actually ask the other one how we felt about the whole thing.
Two years later (two years!!!), we finally got it together and started going out. To be honest I think we only managed it because we’d both had a little bit to drink. He was walking me home and we were having a conversation… I think I might have been taking the mick out of him innocence when he turned round, said “don’t you start”, kissed me and it just went from there. 
Went out for a year and a half, and still friends now, even though we split up. **
That really sweet. Oh and drink always helps the universal matchmaker
Originally posted by grinch *
**Dmn Dipi!
Is she hot dude? I want to see her! I’m coming over there now!
Aw, my little dipi is all grown up… Haha just kidding man.
Just be like, Btch! Suk me! Thats what i do? thx +_+
grinch:kir: **
OOoooooooo I saw this on a film. You drive her out to a nice remote spot and just blurt it out “Suck me beautiful”
Oh no wait that didn’t actually work for the guy in the film
What would work if you could make it really warm and then rain so you’re out side in the warm rain holding hands.
Oh and if you can get her drunk it helps.
Oooooo offer to make a website in her honour then come here and ask someone to build it for you.
Oh sod it go with the drunk thing.
Chateaux neufdupap is really nice
*Originally posted by mdipi.com *
**guys i have just realized i got a crush on my good friend. its killing me having her not know, and me not knowing how she feels, but i cant “just tell her” because i know we wouldnt be as close of friends anymore, and that means just as much to me. i donno what to do but i really need to talk to her about it soon.
someo one help! **
wow, the same exact thing happened to me a few months ago. I simply told one of her friends (I made it “sliip” out) and her friend told her (obviously) and she told her friend that she liked me too, and so now we’re “going out”. Things worked out perfectly, so DON’T BE AFRAID!
