Problems with Loading Movies and Buttons in "Hit" State

This issue has been driving me nuts for weeks…

I have a main fla. of which I’m loading in movies in level 1 without any problems. My issue arises when I want to have the button they’ve just clicked on to remain “deactivated” or grey back as they have currently selected that file. Do I place the buttons on the main movie or the movie being loaded into the main?

I’m sure there’s an easy solution…

thanks so much,

m@