Sleeping with them.
Not generally a good idea, is it? :puzzled:
Ahh, such a quality film. 
Tells you everything you need to know about us Brits.
Currently debating whether or not to call the ex in question, see what he’s up to this weekend. As a friend, naturally. :beam: There’s a big football match for our team going on, and we were both planning to go… ponders
Scandalas
Moi? :beam:
you should hear how kit pronounces “garage” it’s kinda cool =)
remember that, kit?
Hehe, yeah I remember that. 
I guess I do sound funny. Even over here there are two ways of pronouncing it - ‘garidge’ or ‘gararge’… Weird.
Fester, bunny boiling refers to Fatal Attraction, the woman who goes all mental after being dumped. We kind of use it to refer to women who are a bit doolally like that.
Yep. I still don’t know exactly what happened. Me and the guy had been good friends for about 5 years before we started dating, been going out for a year, then seemingly overnight he just clammed up, refused to see me, talk to me, anything. He broke up with me via a text message, on my birthday (suckerpunch or what?). I eventually found out (from his brother who is also a friend of mine) that he’d started seeing this girl where he worked.
I never asked the ex straight out what the hell happened. For one I figured that if he wanted to tell me then he would, and sendly I probably didn’t really want to know. But she turned out to be a bit screwed up in the head, and they split up…
If I’m honest, I think he’s learned his lesson from what happened. I was mad at him back then, but I got over it and we’re friends again. Even so, because he did it once, there’s that nagging voice going “he could do it again”…
I dunno… I guess we’re a backup plan. If neither of us are married by the time we’re 35, we’ll marry each other. 
I honestly have no idea. He’s a man, he doesn’t talk about his feelings unless he’s held at gunpoint.
Yeah, my ex would annoy me to hell to talk about my feelings, she had a point, relation ship is a two way road, anyway Kitimariana, hope this helps,
Sounds like dangerous teratory Kit. Its nice whilst it lasts but you got suckerpunched last time. Make sure you’re not looking the wrong wa this time should things get more involved than they are now.
I’m confused Kit…
You say this guy might have been the one a long time ago.
You say this guy drives wou wild.
During this thread you’ve certainly given the impression you want him back.
Now I know he hurt you before, and to be honest texting you to end your relationship on your birthday is lower than low. By the way does he regret ending it that way?
He knows he made a mistake and he’s not going to do it again, you said yourself if your honest he’s probably learnt his lesson. He sounds intrested to me…whats stopping you?
Yeah, it is kind of a confusing situation, I admit. 
It’s true that I was completely mad about this guy, and I’m still attracted to him in a way. But as Las mentioned, it’s dangerous territory. We could get back together, but I guess I’d feel like he was settling for second best - he left me once for someone else, and however much he regrets it, the fact remains that he chose another woman over me.
He did eventually apologise for the text thing, though it took him a while to do it since he was avoiding me (mainly because he was scared of what I’d do to him, and with good reason). That’s another reason why I won’t date him properly again, I know what a b*****d he can be.
So in theory yes we could, but in practice I wouldn’t. But we enjoy each others’ company as friends still, which is nice. And occasionally we enjoy each others’ company as more than that.
Hope you don’t mind me saying this but the more I find out about the guy he does sound like a b*****d. I’d keep him as a friend (if you really want to) but I don’t think you should sleep with him again…though obviously that’s up to you.
The guy obviously sees you as a consolation prize and because he can’t find someone to have sex with, it sounds like he’s settled for you. Sorry to be harsh but thats how guys like him think.
I think that if you have been the unfortunate recipient of a sucker-punch (I know I have … hehe, proving just how crazy women are ;¬)) then your ego is, quite naturally, going to be pretty bruised by the whole thing … and if the other person does then show a renewed interest it’s tempting to get back with them - even if only to boost the ego. Which is the wrong reason to get back with them, of course. I’ve gone back to an ex (LOL who I thought was the one and made “my legs go all wobbly” … just my legs though) following a similar episode and it was a really, really bad idea. Great having a **** $exy lady back in my life again, and we stayed together for a while but the doubts NEVER went away. Hehe, Dr Hook had it right … “it’s hard being in love with a beautiful woman” ;¬)
I’m begining to sound like someone’s dad, so I’m gonna shut up now!
btw - Kit - ‘garidge’ or ‘gararge’… how do you pronounce it? I can then tell if you are a posh girl or not ;¬) Although, your alley antics have given me some insight ;¬P
Yep, I know. Heh, they always say that women fall for b*****ds and I guess I’m no exception. He’s one of these guys that can be incredibly thoughtful and considerate one minute, then a total numpty the next which blows away all the nice bit from earlier. :sure:
You know, I was never totally sure whether he knew what he was doing or was completely oblivious to the way he acted sometimes. Because we’ve been friends for so long, I do know him and how his mind works pretty well. I got the impression most of the time that he just didn’t realise what he was doing, that he was scared and just acting on impulse. But then again, sometimes I caught myself thinking ‘no-one can be that blind, surely?’ and that he knew exactly what he was up to. :sure:
Meh. Some other girl can deal with his neuroses on a long term basis.
And although I come from Chatham, I say “gararge”.
“gararge” eh? from Chatham? … do you pronounce your surname “Bucket” or “Bouquet” ? ;¬) hehe, sorry, couldn’t resist!
Oh yes, very funny. I take it you’ve heard of Chatham then?
I just heard that Chatham girls were easy and did rude stuff in alleys ;¬)
Don’t know much about it to be honest! Isn’t it in Kent?
lol @ tommy 
Sadly the website that this article - http://www.theregister.co.uk/2002/05/22/chatham_girls_the_online_user/ - talks about is no longer up, but it still tells you a bit about Chatham Girls. Sheppeyscum is still operational though, and it’s not far off.
Basically we’re talking big chunky gold jewellery, hoop earrings, tracksuits, bad accents, unemployed, no fashion sense, grease, knuckledragging… You get the picture.
I hasten to add though that we’re not all like that (the alley thing was a one off. Mostly). 
I work in Newport which is a complete dive (I must have been very bad in a previous life!) which sounds exactly like Chatham!! Tongue in cheek ‘rap’ group, the Goldie Looking Chain hail from Newport (may have heard them on radio 1) and they even celebrate it’s utter, desperate naffness!
http://icwales.icnetwork.co.uk/0100news/0200wales/tm_objectid=14275863%26method=full%26siteid=50082%26headline=newport-refuses-to-let--fashion-ruling-leave-it-shell-shocked-name_page.html
Actually, I should say that i’m “employed” in Newport. I seem to be spending more time browsing Kirupa than working today.
