I’m really desperate for some help, and none of my guy friends have any advice for me.
So there’s this one girl, let’s call her Amanda, and I’ve known her since the 3rd grade (I’m in 10th now), but we were never really friends through grade school. Ok, so it’s September of this year, and I’m standing in a line for a free BBQ, and this is where I meet this girl, (she later became my gf, let’s call her Becky.) She’s standing to the right of me, and we were just talking and stuff and Amanda is with her best friend standing to the left. I’m facing Becky, and I feel someone pushing me, I turn around and Amanda turns away and I can see her shyly smiling. I turn back to Becky and a few minutes later, Amanda flicks my ear. She kept doing that for the whole 20 minutes that we were standing in that line. (It was a loooong line) I didn’t think much of this, as Amanda is super super hot, and she’s the kind of girl people don’t even ask out, they KNOW they’re gonna get rejected, so I thought she was just having “fun.” The next science class (Amanda’s in my class), I notice her giving me these glances, like looks at me, and then quickly looks away. I thought maybe I had something in my hair or a stain on my shirt, so I went to the washroom to check it out but everything was ok. And this continued, for a long time, she’d give me these glances, and when we’d pass eachother in the hall, she always looks at me.
Then I started dating Becky, and one time Amanda saw me holding her hand, and she just walked away. But she kept giving me those glances. Then 3 weeks later, Becky dumped me (said she didn’t like me anymore.) Ofcourse I was sad, but I got over her. Then I started noticing Amanda. I started giving her glances, and going out of my way to walk past her locker, just to see her. She did that back to me, and one time when I was in my car, and Amanda was standing a few metres ahead waiting for her mom to stop the car, I looked at her, and she looked at me, and we had this intense stare for like 3 or 4 seconds, and then she was getting in the car and I saw her smiling.
Then just this Friday, we had a supply teacher, and he let us do whatever we wanted, so she came and sat at the desk next to mine, and was talking to a girl that sits in front of her. She was resting her head on the desk, and when I was “reading” my textbook, I look at her, and she was looking at me.
I still haven’t said a word to her. I really super badly want to ask her out, BUT the problem is, I don’t know how to do it. I’ve never done it before, seeing as my ex told me on msn that she liked me, so I said it back to her and that’s how it started.
I don’t know what to say, how to say it…oh and there’s also the problem of her best friend. They have 2 classes together, they’re lockers are right beside eachothers, they have lunch together everyday, and they live pretty close to eachother, so Amanda’s mom drives both of them home. I can never get her alone! I mean, I can’t ask her out right in front of her best friend, how awkward is that?!?
I don’t want to jump into a relationship right away, I wanna get to know her better, and I think she wants that too. But I think I have to tell her that I like her just to get that out into the open, just so she knows and she doesn’t feel that she’s wasted the last 2 and a half months.
Please help, any and all advice would be greatly appreciated.
