I’ve got some problem with this one girl that I’m about to go out with on Sunday. I asked her out on Tuesday after my ex decided to break up, but it was mutual. But this girl isn’t like all the girls I’ve gone out with. I’ve known her for about a year now and she’s not too talkative to me as before. We both traded phone numbers and such, but should I call her first or should I wait until Sunday?
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by all means, wait…
If you call, you risk being mistaken as “desperate.”
which is the death toll for relationships of any kind…
She could just feel a little uncomfortable, especially since you are now single… after your date, you should be on a much more “friendly” basis.
however, that is just my opinion…
Rev
not that I’m an advocate of threads like this (ok… well… just fluid_0ne’s one… ;)) but: wait. if you’ve already secured a date with her, there’s no need to call her up or anything, and as rev says, you might come off looking desparate 
relationship threads are cool IMO…
Whining threads will get a lot of harassment tho…
Rev
*Originally posted by asphaltcowboy *
(ok… well… just fluid_0ne’s one… ;))
Yea, I’ve thought of the “desperate” thing. I don’t want to look “desperate” and by all, I’m not. I don’t want to have these “grudges” hanging between us throughout the relationship. Someone is going to have to call the other first. Should I or wait for her?
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anticipation is a very good thing… especially since we are only talking of a few days… If you are going out on Sunday, and you need to call to make arrangements, then I would call on Friday to confirm, and make it a real short, but relaxed convo…
Rev
After your first date it should be safe to call her every now and then to show that you are still interested. If you already have a first date planned out then I agree with them. You have no need to call her, maybe the day you pick her up, but that is the extent of it.
Well, we’ve never actually talked over the phone yet. We actually set up all our plans online for some reason.
But the confirmation is a must and I don’t know if I should do that by phone or IM? Again, the “desperate” thing comes up again. But it can also be a door opener.
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Don’t call her till a couple of days after the date.
You won’t seem too desperate by calling beforehand, and by leaving it a few days after you’ll keep her guessing, then she’ll be even more pleased to hear from you.
kit: :love:
Like I said, Friday make a relaxed, short phone call to confirm. If she is suddenly busy, take it well, and try to get another date.
If she still doesn’t seem receptive, let it go for now, keep in touch via IM, and maybe later she may be more receptive. After all, you just split with another girl…
Rev
I kinda have a slight advantage here on how women think about this sort of thing.
Women want men to call like, right after the date, and when men don’t, we start thinking about them more, wondering why they haven’t called yet. We start to panic, then when you do call, we’re so relieved that you actually do like us, we’re more happy and relaxed than we would have been if you’d called right away…
really? how comes?
Shut it, buster. 
Kit: Always good to hear from a women’s point of view. :thumb: Thanks
Reverendflash: Since the date is on Sunday, is there a reason for calling on Friday?
I hope she gets “receptive” pretty soon because it’s kind of driving me nuts inside.
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don’t you agree kit, that if confirmation is needed, a phone call is best?
I’m curious is all… I’m essentially married, so I hope to never need this advice… I hope…
[edit] in regards to why Friday, it is a couple days in advance, and it shows you are still interested, and makes sure she doesn’t pick someone else she would rather go out with…[/edit]
Rev
So if the date’s on Sunday, I should call maybe on Tuesday night maybe or even Wendsday?
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I’m with Rev here.
If you’re going to call to confirm, then Friday is best. Not too before, but close enough so that she’ll have it on her mind for the next day.
Just a quick call to make sure. Nothing heavy, just a “Hi, how are you, is Sunday still alright for you? Thanks, see ya” will be fine.
It shows courtesy that you bothered, but not too over eager.
*Originally posted by Kitiara *
**Shut it, buster.**
I love it when you talk dirty